- HAS YOUR SPOUSE RECENTLY THREATENED SEPARATION OR DIVORCE?
- IS YOUR SPOUSE INVOLVED IN AN AFFAIR, AND NOW YOU FEEL HOPELESS OR ARE STRUGGLING WITH UNFORGIVENESS?
- HAS THE ARGUING AND BICKERING OVER THE PAST MONTHS OR YEARS REACHED THE POINT OF ONE OR BOTH OF YOU WANTING TO THROW IN THE TOWEL?
Regardless of where you are, or the reasons your marriage is in crisis, these first five steps will help point the way to hope and reconciliation, even with an unwilling spouse.
1. Put a Prayer Plan Together
Get a same-gender support partner in place. Ask someone you trust, who wants to see your marriage saved, if he or she would be willing to pray for you and help hold you accountable for the next 12 weeks. During the 12-week period, don’t make any hasty decisions. Instead, make a commitment to read God’s Word daily. We recommend a chapter of Proverbs each day, coordinating with the day of the month that you start.
2. Decide Which Resource is Best for You
Take time to navigate around our website, reviewing the books and resources. Decide which resource will best meet your current need. Ideally, the Yes, Your Marriage Can Be Saved book will give you a jump-start to saving your marriage, even if you have an unwilling spouse. The 12-week workbook, Marriage 911 First Response, is designed to use with your support partner. The online classes will provide a great opportunity to connect weekly with one of our trained facilitators.
3. View the testimonies on our website
The couples and individuals who have shared their testimonies have done so with the prayer that you will be encouraged and have hope, even if your marriage looks hopeless. Please take time to view them.
4. Give Your Spouse Space
If your spouse is unwilling to work on the marriage, give him or her the space they need. Try to be kind and considerate, even if there is a 3rd party involved. Don’t beg, plead, yell, throw tantrums or make threats. These behaviors will only make things worse. Remember, take the next 12 weeks to make positive changes and let God work.
5. keep your focus on god.
When we are hurt and feel hopeless, it can result in turning away from God, instead of allowing the hurt to bring us nearer to Him. Be careful that you do not make choices that will result in long-term consequences that are hard to recover from. Regardless of what your spouse chooses to do, keep your focus on God and His principles for living a life that is pleasing to Him. At the end of the day, God is more concerned about your relationship with Him than He is about your marriage. We have witnessed miracles in the lives of those who trusted Him in the midst of their trials.
We would love to pray for you, so please let us know how we can do that by connecting with us to find a ministry near you, or just allowing us to pray for you.